Automatic Reactions

I'm noticing more and more that I often have automatic responses to situations that do not state how I really feel. Am I the only one who does this?

Example: My boyfriend and I were just playing MarioKart, he was losing. So he decided to quit racing, just put down his controller and complain that the course that I picked was too hard. So I said fine, I'll play alone, quit the race and selected one player. What does he do? Turns off the Wii. I know, right? How old are we? So, I walk away to read the paper online. If he want to pout and act like a 5 year old, he can, alone. 

About 20 mins. later, he appears in the dining room and says "I'm sorry I was a jerk about Mario." What do I say? "It's ok" WHAT?!?! I mean I could have said yes you were, thanks for apologizing, or thanks for admitting it, or any number of things that weren't "It's Ok". 

Because the fact of the matter is it's not ok, and I don't feel like it's ok, and I sure as hell don't want him thinking it's ok. (Which for the record, he said no it's not) But that's not the point. The point is, why am I going around telling people that their poor behavior is ok? 

At some point in my life, did I develop this, let people walk all over you, as long as they make an effort to realize that they're wrong mentality? Give them a don't go to jail card as long as they made an effort? I don't know if at some point, I decided everything was just ok. But it's not going to be ok anymore. I'm really going to have to make a conscious decision to think about the words that come out of my mouth.

You know, I notice this in other situations. Sometimes, it's even funny (in a did that just happen kind of way.) Like the times that you're in the grocery store and someone says I'm sorry, but I'm just going to get right in here and get in your way, stand right in front of you when you're looking for something. I mean it's ok because I said I was sorry first. Or when someone is like "you know I'm not racist or anything" but, and then makes some blatantly racist comment. It's like hey wait just one second here, you just said that you weren't racist, but as long as everyone know's that you're not, it's ok to slam people of other races. WHAT?!?! No, guess what? It's still not ok!

Or like the times that that someone is like I'm sorry, I'm not trying to be mean, or rude but ________ (insert comment of choice here) I had a neighbor do that to me just recently. I was pulling into the neighborhood and she came outside and said, "You know, I'm not trying to bitch, but you really need to slow down." Well clearly you are trying to bitch woman. Perhaps your bitchiness is warranted. Perhaps someone needed to bring it to my attention that I drive to fast. And the next time your dog wakes me up at 6am with his barking, I'll be sure to bring it to your attention. And I am trying to bitch. 

If you have something to say, and you feel strongly about it, then just say it. If you are comfortable enough in your own opinions, then you don't need to preface your remarks by saying hey I'm gonna hurt your feelings here, so just bear with me.

I'm not the only person I've seen demonstrate this type of behavior, saying everything is ok, when it's just not. When did we, as the public, decide it was not socially acceptable to spare other's feeling when they were the ones in the wrong? I don't get it, and from now on, I'm going to make an effort to eradicate this type of behavior and encourage other's to do it as well. 

LeBron Madness

The entire United States seems to be in a state of LeBron madness. I mean honestly people, what is the big deal? 

The way I see it, there is a guy who can play basketball, very well. He happens to be from Ohio. For a long time, he played for his hometown team, and now he's moving on. I highly doubt that he did this as a personal betrayal of his fans. As a matter of fact, I'm from Ohio, and so are many of my friends. I can think of about 12 of us who are good at what we do and no one was upset when we moved away.

I don't know much about basketball, but it seems to me that if it were my job, I'd go where I though I'd have the best opportunity to do my job well. You know, there is an oil leak in the Gulf that has been spewing oil for about 81 days now. Perhaps if people cared about half as much about issues like those as much as they care about where a guy plays basketball, there would be a solution. I have bigger problems than worrying about LeBron James. I think you do too. 

The ridiculousness continues

People of the Unites States have got to be living under a rock if it is still not apparent to them at there is a very serious issue of obesity affecting both children and adults. It's been a growing issues, and this present generation of children are the first in history who are expected to live shorter lives than their parents because of obesity related health problems. 

This issue may not have been so popular 5 years ago, but now you can't turn on the TV, open the newspaper, or see a billboard at least once a day that is encouraging awareness of the issue, or promoting people to participate in healthy activities, like reducing calories and exercising.  

So, how do restaurants respond? By developing brand new menu items that take the idea of a sandwich, or burger, and replacing the two pieces of bread with full size meals. Example:

The BRAND NEW Grilled Cheese Burger Melt. What is this, you may ask? It is a burger, lettuce and tomato, packed between TWO FULL grilled cheese 

sandwiches. I mean honestly, can a bite of that thing really even fit in someone's mouth?

What a supportive response to an issue that is literally killing millions of Americans. Among them, plenty of children. Why not just throw in unlimited soda and ice cream sundaes and sell the whole deal for $5.00. That's about the only thing I can think of that will make it worst. It packs 1,500 calories, 79 grams of fat, 2090 mg of sodium, and 101 carbohydrates. By the way, if you were adhering to a 2,000 calorie diet and ate one of these bad boys- you would have 500 calories and 210 mg of sodium left in a day, and be over your fat allowance by 14 grams. That's just the burger/sandwich/enough food for three people, or whatever you want to call it. 

Bravo Friendly's! Bravo.  Thank you for your health conscious contribution to your fellow Americans.

Jake and Vienna- Who Really Cares?

Well, clearly it appears that I do. (But only for the purposes of the writing about the ridiculousness of the whole ordeal) And, I'm willing to bet that millions of American's really do care, or else Chris Harris wouldn't take time to drag this out on prime time TV. 

I just so happened to turn on the TV to see our favorite reality host- Chris Harris, sitting down with the not so lovely couple and was just shocked that this Vienna character seems to be absolutely incapable of shutting her mouth. And while we're on the subject of ridiculousness, will someone please clue in Mr. Harris that we, the American public, are completely capable of counting to one. So in subsequent episodes, he can stop with the dramatic pause and announcement of "This is the final rose for tonight." 

Anyways, lets take a quick look at how Ms. Vienna took time out of her evening to make women everywhere look absolutely crazy. I didn't watch this season, I don't know what happened, I don't know if people think that Jake picked the right girl. I can say however that when I first saw that it was Vienna, I was a little in shock. She just looks crazy. Jake must be out of this mind thinking that she was the one for him. 

This show doesn't have much of a track record. It's filmed in what 3 months? And there are 25 women competing for one man's attention and love- which, if you ask me, cannot be developed with true intentions in this amount of time. And it goes to show that in 14 seasons, there has been one marriage, and so far it's lasted less than a year. 

Add that to the fact that Vienna is willing to sell her breakup story to tabloids and magazines and the bachelor franchise itself in order to "set the record straight" who broke up with whom. WHO CARES? Then she turns around and says she hates LA, she hates fame, and she hates the cameras. Then why are you here anyway? Are you really that vain that you think we care who broke up with who? Or what you fight about? I watched 10 minutes of this interview and I wanted to claw my eyeballs out. This girl will NOT stop talking. On about interruption 

numbero 24 in 5 minutes, she asks who get sick of someone in only six months? News Flash Vienna: I've listened to you talk for 5 seconds and you're annoying me. She goes on the say, well actually I don't really know what she said, because I was just shocked she wouldn't let Jake get a word in edgewise. 

Many lessons to learn here Vienna, among them; No one cares about your relationship that was seemingly doomed from the start. If you ever want to have success in relationships, I suggest you learn how to shut up. Also, please stop doing interviews that make you look like some stereotypical crazy, crying, over dramatic, immature grown woman. As a result of people like you putting these images in the mainstream media, eligible bachelors everywhere are turning down my very lovely single girlfriends because they think they're going to have to deal with you. 

Finally, just go away. If you don't want to be in the spotlight, then I don't want to see you when I turn on the TV, or on the cover of EVERY magazine at the store. Next thing you know, you'll be turning up as the next bachelorette or on the cast of Dancing with the Stars. Lord help reality TV.